If you’re so inclined, there doesn’t really seem to be a limit in pushing limits. There are ways to push you deeper, and for longer. I have heard — but don’t know this from personal experience — that marking becomes less of a problem over time. I don’t know if this is a good thing or not…
Keep experimenting. Are there ways to get you to where you want to be? You have a wide range of experience, and experiences. Are there other techniques which may help? Physical techniques such as singletail or bullwhip? (Which like the cane require training.) Mental/emotional/headspace techniques? Changeup/change of pace? (more…)
It’s been a heck of a week.
At Sarah’s party, something which has been developing over a period of three years, came to fruition. Several of us have spent the ensuing week trying to assimilate what happened.
Part of it is completely normal “party crash.” It’s a great weekend, everybody’s having a wonderful time among friends, and endorphins are flying everywhere. Returning to the Real World is difficult for everyone.
There’s also something called “sub-crash” or “sub-drop”. It’s a more severe form of the party crash which happens to everyone… tears, depression, the shakes, etc. Again, it’s a reaction to the high. It has a physical basis, something like the crash after a sugar rush. But there’s an emotional basis as well. (more…)
Canes have a very different effect from anything else wooden. Rattan canes are far different from bamboo.
I order mine six or ten at a time from Hanson (now Paddlewerks). They need to then be soaked, and if you like a more “normal” finished look, sand and stain or varnish them.
If anyone’s seriously intending to experiment with canes, send me a note. I can give specific advice for avoiding the horror stories. I myself practiced an hour a day, five days a week, for three months, to become proficient.
In the hands of an expert, the cane is unlike any other instrument. There is nothing to compare it to.
Okay, so you’re curious about the cane. Now what? (more…)
Somewhere in our house, we all have a drawer, box, cabinet or even closet filled with things we wouldn’t want others to see. It lingers near our bed and calls to us in the middle of the night when there’s no one there to fill our needs. It shows us our true selves, gives us great joy and teaches us new things. I’m talking about none other than your sex toy drawer (box/cabinet/closet/vault). That sacred place that every woman needs to go every once in a while.
Realistically though, no matter how often you turn to its contents, how often do you actually upgrade your toys, clean them and throw out the ones that just aren’t doing it anymore? Probably not often. At this point, are your toys a little rundown and ragged? Are you bored with a few of them? If so, it’s time for a little sex drawer revival. It’s time to pull em out, evaluate and re-up your selection.
First, look at your toys and see if any of the material is beginning to break down. Sadly, silicone-based lubes, improper storage and plain old usage over time can cause the materials in your toys to break down. This can be incredibly unsafe, so make sure you toss any toys that look a little beaten up. (more…)
I use rattan exclusively. I use bamboo, graphite, etc., extremely rarely — merely as a variance of sensation. Sarah puts the bamboo cane in the same category as a two-by-four.
The very-thin graphite cane was a gift, and tremendously wicked. Its noise as it swishes through the air is very scary — and, thus, I primarily use it for swishing through the air.
Canes break, so plan on it. There are things you can do to make breakage less likely, but they do break. So, if you lose a cane or two (or twenty), don’t sweat it.
In public play, there are a couple of things I’m very careful about. (more…)
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