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A Workshop by Tom
- About the Workshop
- In this workshop, I make no attempt to actually teach my caning technique. The technique requires many hours of practice. Rather, what I teach is my method of interaction with the play partner. I hope to work with a volunteer new to the cane, taking her as far as she desires to go and no further, and also perform a full caning scene. The full caning scene should be with someone who has worked with me before.The cane is a tool. In fact, the scene itself is just a tool — a means of getting her (the play partner) where she wants to go. It does not specifically matter how “heavy” or “light” the scene is; the point is to take her as far as she is ready to go. My role, as I see it, is to take her places she cannot reach by herself.A heavy caning scene can appear quite frightening to the outside observer. Thus part of my role in a public scene, is to show that the scene remains within “safe, sane, consensual” bounds. Nevertheless, the cane can be frightening, and workshop participants need to be prepared for this.
- Preparation
- You might be curious as to what to expect. I have placed online a scene report, describing a caning by my instructor Jeff. My own style, naturally, is similar to my teacher’s.
- Materials/Volunteers
- I would like a chair and pillow available, so I can demonstrate specific technique without wearing out my demonstrator.If feasible, I would also like a volunteer to work with, who has some curiosity about what it might feel like to be caned. This person does not need to have any particularly high pain tolerance; the point is to demonstrate how I work with a new person, developing trust and keeping things consensual.Due to the time constraints involved in the Workshop, I would need a partner or “spotter” to go with this volunteer, to keep an eye on the volunteer after the demonstration and make sure all is well. In other words, if it so happened that I sent the volunteer “floating,” I need someone around to watch and make sure she comes back down okay while I move on to the next portion of the workshop. Naturally, in a real scene, I would handle the “aftercare” myself.
- Part One: Introduction
- The scene actually begins at this point. I begin with a “show and tell.” I bring out my canes, show and explain the difference between bamboo and rattan, and so on. I show what techniques I use, and why. The “show and tell,” however, is merely a means to an end. My purpose is to begin to develop a level of comfort in the other person.I have, unfortunately, found that simply explaining about caning, perhaps even doing a first-time caning scene, is irresponsible. There are far too many things which can go disastrously wrong. (I am referring to rattan or synthetic canes; bamboo is easy.)Picture a beginner, if you will, whom I have introduced to the cane, who sees some other person with a cane in his or her toy bag. Simple possession of a rattan cane does not guarantee the ability to use it safely. Therefore I teach the one being caned the kinds of things to watch for. So long as the person is using the cane within his or her ability, all should be fine.
- Part Two: Working with a New Person
- Assuming that I have a volunteer still interested in experimenting with the canes, I move on to discussing specifically what to expect during the scene. My intent is that there be no surprises whatever. No cane stroke will happen that she did not expect. We will be talking our way through the entire scene. We will try this, and try that, and based on reaction judge where to go from there.If she wants to try a harder stroke, we’ll work out how much harder and from which cane — keeping everything within her comfort zone. In other words, we are conducting the scene as a partnership. If it so happens she wants to drift deeper from heavier strokes; that’s fine. She knows what to expect, and can now trust that things will remain within control.If we choose to move deeper/heavier, I will continue to make my expectations clear as we go. If we choose to not move to a deeper level, that’s fine too — and an important lesson. If we were to ever work together again, she would have a better idea of what to expect, and not have to waste any energy worrying about whether it might go too far.However, for the purposes of the workshop, there is another demonstration to come. One should never run from one scene to another, leaving the first person to crash on her own. This is why our volunteer needs a partner, to stay with her as she comes back from the scene. In the same way, I need to stop and make the mental transition before proceeding with Part Three.
- Part Three: The Consensual S/M Caning Scene
- The exact nature of this scene depends on the mood of the persons involved. The scene might be frighteningly severe, and it might be disappointingly tame. Either way, however, I can demonstrate how I conduct such an event, taking her to the headspace which is best for her that day.The caning itself is likely to take 30–40 minutes. We’re not offering “six of the best” here! However, we will need to keep the workshop moving right along, so that we do have enough time remaining, to conduct the demonstration.
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