Fantasies Come True

This story by babalon is used on the Old Tom Archive with permission.

hi sweetie -

we went to a great party last night -

it was at a gay couple’s house — lead­ers of the men’s leather com­mu­nity here in the cities. it was a fund raiser for the Inter­na­tional Fan­tasy Week­end and they have a huge awe­some house. it’s kinda like ours only big­ger with an attic dun­geon that’s out­fit­ted with all sorts of fun sta­tions. because of the fund raiser it was being pro­moted to the pan­sex­ual crowd and we showed up and well, showed ‘em how it’s done. ;) (more…)

Bookbabe and the Cane

This story by Michele (Book­babe) is used on the Old Tom Archive with permission.

Mmm­mmn mmm­mmn mmm­mmn. I’ve had my post-​​caning nap and lolled in bed and had a bit of sus­te­nance and read the NG and writ­ten some e-​​mail and I’m still buzzing and hum­ming from the cane.

(I tend to write and speak in run-​​on sen­tences when I’m still bliss-​​y).

Canes have always scared me, and I’d always thought they were a hard limit for me; I’d seen some can­ing videos that scared the bejeezus out of me, and fig­ured they were too severe, that they’d send me zoom­ing out­side my pain threshold.

Wrong. One good thing I learned today is that it’s pos­si­ble to play mod­er­ately with a cane.

Not that they still don’t scare me, but it’s a good kind of scared– the kind that gets me wet. That’s a ten­sion I like play­ing with, get­ting to the point where I’m los­ing con­trol and feel­ing messy and strug­gling to breathe and so afraid of the next stroke of a toy but want­ing it so much. (more…)

The Cane of Curiosity

This poem by LadieJJ is used on the Old Tom Archive with permission.

My curios­ity over took me
And I knew I had to ask
Luck­ily you were happy to oblige
To make the unknown, known to me
To help me ease my fears
The more we talked, the more I knew
I had made the right choice (more…)

The Crop

Thanks to “Fifty Shades of Grey,” the crop has become rather pop­u­lar in the bedroom!

Here’s a rid­ing crop from JT’s Stock­room (the link opens in a new win­dow for you). Here are some quirts from Tex­o­maWhips. JT’s Stock­room (now sim­ply called The Stock­room) is one of my favorite providers of inex­pen­sive but high qual­ity bondage equip­ment. I have no rela­tion­ship to Tex­o­maWhips, but their pho­tos look great!

A quirt is rel­a­tively short. Roughly half is han­dle, and half is the whip. The han­dle might be wooden, or might be leather and flex­i­ble. A quirt has two or three rel­a­tively wide blades. The ones I have seen have all been rawhide.

With a quirt, the whole thing is flex­i­ble and floppy. A rid­ing crop, by com­par­i­son, is stiff. (more…)

Changing Pain Thresholds

If you’re so inclined, there doesn’t really seem to be a limit in push­ing lim­its. There are ways to push you deeper, and for longer. I have heard — but don’t know this from per­sonal expe­ri­ence — that mark­ing becomes less of a prob­lem over time. I don’t know if this is a good thing or not… :-)

Keep exper­i­ment­ing. Are there ways to get you to where you want to be? You have a wide range of expe­ri­ence, and expe­ri­ences. Are there other tech­niques which may help? Phys­i­cal tech­niques such as sin­gle­tail or bull­whip? (Which like the cane require train­ing.) Mental/​emotional/​headspace tech­niques? Changeup/​change of pace? (more…)

Subspace: The World Within

A Webmaster’s Glimpse into the Real World of BDSM

It’s been a heck of a week.

At Sarah’s party, some­thing which has been devel­op­ing over a period of three years, came to fruition. Sev­eral of us have spent the ensu­ing week try­ing to assim­i­late what happened.

Part of it is com­pletely nor­mal “party crash.” It’s a great week­end, everybody’s hav­ing a won­der­ful time among friends, and endor­phins are fly­ing every­where. Return­ing to the Real World is dif­fi­cult for everyone.

There’s also some­thing called “sub-​​crash” or “sub-​​drop”. It’s a more severe form of the party crash which hap­pens to every­one… tears, depres­sion, the shakes, etc. Again, it’s a reac­tion to the high. It has a phys­i­cal basis, some­thing like the crash after a sugar rush. But there’s an emo­tional basis as well. (more…)

Teaching the Cane

Canes have a very dif­fer­ent effect from any­thing else wooden. Rat­tan canes are far dif­fer­ent from bamboo.

I order mine six or ten at a time from Han­son (now Pad­dlew­erks). They need to then be soaked, and if you like a more “nor­mal” fin­ished look, sand and stain or var­nish them.

If anyone’s seri­ously intend­ing to exper­i­ment with canes, send me a note. I can give spe­cific advice for avoid­ing the hor­ror sto­ries. I myself prac­ticed an hour a day, five days a week, for three months, to become proficient.

In the hands of an expert, the cane is unlike any other instru­ment. There is noth­ing to com­pare it to.

Okay, so you’re curi­ous about the cane. Now what? (more…)

It’s Sex Drawer Revival Time

Some­where in our house, we all have a drawer, box, cab­i­net or even closet filled with things we wouldn’t want oth­ers to see. It lingers near our bed and calls to us in the mid­dle of the night when there’s no one there to fill our needs. It shows us our true selves, gives us great joy and teaches us new things. I’m talk­ing about none other than your sex toy drawer (box/​cabinet/​closet/​vault). That sacred place that every woman needs to go every once in a while.

Real­is­ti­cally though, no mat­ter how often you turn to its con­tents, how often do you actu­ally upgrade your toys, clean them and throw out the ones that just aren’t doing it any­more? Prob­a­bly not often. At this point, are your toys a lit­tle run­down and ragged? Are you bored with a few of them? If so, it’s time for a lit­tle sex drawer revival. It’s time to pull em out, eval­u­ate and re-​​up your selection.

First, look at your toys and see if any of the mate­r­ial is begin­ning to break down. Sadly, silicone-​​based lubes, improper stor­age and plain old usage over time can cause the mate­ri­als in your toys to break down. This can be incred­i­bly unsafe, so make sure you toss any toys that look a lit­tle beaten up. (more…)

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